Online dating can be fun as you try to imagine what your prospective date is really like.Although these days of course there are web cams and mics but they still do not really replace face to face contact.You probably have an image in your mind of what the other person is like,what the first date will be,where it will be,and as the time approaches for that date it can start to become a little stressful.
Will your date like the person they meet,will you be a disappointment to them (maybe you were not entirely truthful on line),will there be a second date, pressures may start to build.Do not go overboard and try to be someone that you are not,be confident,but be yourself.
It is best not to put too much pressure on your date with too many expectations,just try to make your date a fun ,relaxed time,and just enjoy each others company.After all it is just the first date,but it will set up the possibility of many to come.
Confidence is required,but not brashness.You may not think you are sexy ,or look like a movie star,but be confident and let your true self shine through. Easier said than done.It may pay to ask your date about themselves and divert attention away from yourself,avoiding to answer too many questions that may make you feel uncomfortable.
A good idea is to start a conversation about a topic that you have a common interest in,which will make it much easier for the chat to flow,and enable you both to be more relaxed.That may also lead to a possible destination for a future date,that you both would be keen on.Remember that you are a special person and deserve happiness as much as the next person,so do not sell yourself short.Be positive and you will find that special someone.
One place you may find that first date.
Saturday, July 4, 2009
Friday, July 3, 2009
That First Date
So you have found someone you find interesting,asked them out on a date,the answer is YES .Time to feel excited and dream about your upcoming date.This is what you have been hoping and dreaming of.STOP.That is OK but remember that there are plans to be made.Preparations that are crucial to the success of your date.First impressions can be long lasting and first to come to mind when your date thinks of you.Firstly it is probably wise to set an early date so that the enthusiasm first felt still remains strong.After all,if you set it for weeks away you may start to get misgivings.Your date may be thinking-why wait so long,is there some problem they are not being told,and with weeks to think about it,may end up changing their mind.
Next thing to think about is where are you going on this first date.It is probably best to choose somewhere that is not to formal such as an expensive restaurant.After all you both are probably already feeling quite nervous without having any extra and unnecessary stress on you.You would be best served with an informal and fun type place,so you can relax and get to know each other.But remember that informal does not mean you turn up looking like you just got out of bed,with raggy old clothes that you might wear to wash the car.
Evening dates can in themselves cause stress as your prospective date may be worried about other things,such as getting home afterwards,in the dark.After all,at this stage they do not know you.Maybe meeting for coffee or for lunch is the way to go.Choosing your first date in an informal spot,maybe in the middle of the day,whilst taking some of the stress out of the first date also allows you both the opportunity to actually get to know each other,the purpose of the first date.
Last but not least,what topics of conversation.Do not carry on about yourself,how much you have,how wonderful you are.Being a good listener is much more important.Remember that it is important for your date to have good memories of that date for there to be a next date.
Here is the place to find that first date.
Next thing to think about is where are you going on this first date.It is probably best to choose somewhere that is not to formal such as an expensive restaurant.After all you both are probably already feeling quite nervous without having any extra and unnecessary stress on you.You would be best served with an informal and fun type place,so you can relax and get to know each other.But remember that informal does not mean you turn up looking like you just got out of bed,with raggy old clothes that you might wear to wash the car.
Evening dates can in themselves cause stress as your prospective date may be worried about other things,such as getting home afterwards,in the dark.After all,at this stage they do not know you.Maybe meeting for coffee or for lunch is the way to go.Choosing your first date in an informal spot,maybe in the middle of the day,whilst taking some of the stress out of the first date also allows you both the opportunity to actually get to know each other,the purpose of the first date.
Last but not least,what topics of conversation.Do not carry on about yourself,how much you have,how wonderful you are.Being a good listener is much more important.Remember that it is important for your date to have good memories of that date for there to be a next date.
Here is the place to find that first date.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Finding Love At Work
Romance and love develops in any enviroment,and not surprisingly,it can blossom in the workplace.It is not all that unusual at all.At times it can be considered one of the better places to find your prospective partner.This is because you are with them for a large part of the day and can see first hand what type of person they are.So,is this a good place to look for love.Well,there are alot of pitfalls that go with this method.There are always pros and cons to all of the different places and ways to look for your new partner,but I think that at work has more cons than pros.
Firstly,imagine if one of your co workers sends you a present,it will immediately become part of the office gossip,maybe behind your back,which can negatively impact on the overall office functions.This is a common reason why most companies frown upon any sort of workplace romance,and may move the employee to another area,or worse still,fire them.The companies management may consider that the workers mind is not on the job,and therefore,their decision making and contribution to overall team effort is not really up to scratch.
Something else that may cause problems for a couple is if one of them gets promoted over the other.Whilst they are a couple away from work,there will always be that competitive thing (for the guys maybe just ego ),which can get in the way of being professional.The company may be in a difficult position when it comes to firing an employee and therefore may just move one to a completely different area.This may have a negative impact on the relationship and the workplace as well.Some may also consider the opposite,if the couple are constantly together their work mates may feel intimidated by their staying together in decisions regardles of what they might really feel.
I guess that despite all the cons of this type of relationship,there is one positive in that each partner is aware of the negatives and pressures that the other is currently experiencing whilst at their workplace,which can generally be influencing their current moods and feelings.I think that if you go this way,it is probably best that you be discreet about it whilst just in the dating stage,avoiding gossip,and keeping a proper distance between your private and work lives.
A cabbies view
Firstly,imagine if one of your co workers sends you a present,it will immediately become part of the office gossip,maybe behind your back,which can negatively impact on the overall office functions.This is a common reason why most companies frown upon any sort of workplace romance,and may move the employee to another area,or worse still,fire them.The companies management may consider that the workers mind is not on the job,and therefore,their decision making and contribution to overall team effort is not really up to scratch.
Something else that may cause problems for a couple is if one of them gets promoted over the other.Whilst they are a couple away from work,there will always be that competitive thing (for the guys maybe just ego ),which can get in the way of being professional.The company may be in a difficult position when it comes to firing an employee and therefore may just move one to a completely different area.This may have a negative impact on the relationship and the workplace as well.Some may also consider the opposite,if the couple are constantly together their work mates may feel intimidated by their staying together in decisions regardles of what they might really feel.
I guess that despite all the cons of this type of relationship,there is one positive in that each partner is aware of the negatives and pressures that the other is currently experiencing whilst at their workplace,which can generally be influencing their current moods and feelings.I think that if you go this way,it is probably best that you be discreet about it whilst just in the dating stage,avoiding gossip,and keeping a proper distance between your private and work lives.
A cabbies view
Sunday, June 21, 2009
All Of These Are -Don't Forget- When Dating
All Of These Are -Don't Forget- When Dating
The moment you have been dreaming of has arrived and now is the time to make it more than just -a dream.But how do you get that special date.Well you could probably start at the start,which is asking them out,but how do you go about it.Do you need to look extremely confident or maybe a little shy or play it very safe.Maybe a few tips could be of assistance and a great help for you.Here are some simple but very important tips you may find useful in those times that you are finding it difficult to ask a person out for a date.Especially for guys but they can apply to all when it comes to getting a little help in inviting that Mr or Miss right that you have in mind.
1-You must have the right reasons for asking a person out,and know within your-self what they are.Once you have that sorted out in your own mind you need to decide how to convey that to your prospective partner.
2-Remember that not every one that you ask out on a date will say yes.But whatever their reply is you must not take it too much to heart.There may be many reasons,none of which are a personal reflection on you,so just cop it on the chin,gracefully.
3-It may seem corny,like in the movies,but try to practice what you are going to say so that when the time comes you don't get all tongue tied,and look a little foolish.It may be over before it starts.
4-Make sure that you have all of the details for the date in your mind,such as where you would like to go,and what time,after all they might say-yes,and then you stand there with um,ah,um ,could lead them to think that maybe it was a mistake to say yes after all.Have a few ideas ready so that you can be flexible.
5-Make sure you can answer if they ask why you are asking them out,and that you have a sincere desire to.Don't go over the top and seem insincere,but a little flattery,as they,can go a long way towards making the person feel good,and show how thoughtful you are.
6-Don't use pressure to try to get them to go out with you,as this is most likely to lead to the opposite outcome to that which you are after.A big no.As will pressuring them as to why they said no will only make things worse.
7-Remember that you asked them for the date so do not be late,tell them that you have changed your mind,or worse still,not turn up at all.
9-When you ask someone on a date and they say no (there is bound to be a no or two),do not be angry or bitter about it,just take it in your stride and move on.Do not treat them rudely or nasty,they may have reasons you are unaware of,and all you will do is hurt their feelings.Did you notice that I jumped from 7 to 9,where is 8.Well I decided to leave that one to you,as you must have learned something along the way,in your dating trials and tribulations,that you have stored away as-not to forget.
One to try for Indian Dating,and here for general dating
The moment you have been dreaming of has arrived and now is the time to make it more than just -a dream.But how do you get that special date.Well you could probably start at the start,which is asking them out,but how do you go about it.Do you need to look extremely confident or maybe a little shy or play it very safe.Maybe a few tips could be of assistance and a great help for you.Here are some simple but very important tips you may find useful in those times that you are finding it difficult to ask a person out for a date.Especially for guys but they can apply to all when it comes to getting a little help in inviting that Mr or Miss right that you have in mind.
1-You must have the right reasons for asking a person out,and know within your-self what they are.Once you have that sorted out in your own mind you need to decide how to convey that to your prospective partner.
2-Remember that not every one that you ask out on a date will say yes.But whatever their reply is you must not take it too much to heart.There may be many reasons,none of which are a personal reflection on you,so just cop it on the chin,gracefully.
3-It may seem corny,like in the movies,but try to practice what you are going to say so that when the time comes you don't get all tongue tied,and look a little foolish.It may be over before it starts.
4-Make sure that you have all of the details for the date in your mind,such as where you would like to go,and what time,after all they might say-yes,and then you stand there with um,ah,um ,could lead them to think that maybe it was a mistake to say yes after all.Have a few ideas ready so that you can be flexible.
5-Make sure you can answer if they ask why you are asking them out,and that you have a sincere desire to.Don't go over the top and seem insincere,but a little flattery,as they,can go a long way towards making the person feel good,and show how thoughtful you are.
6-Don't use pressure to try to get them to go out with you,as this is most likely to lead to the opposite outcome to that which you are after.A big no.As will pressuring them as to why they said no will only make things worse.
7-Remember that you asked them for the date so do not be late,tell them that you have changed your mind,or worse still,not turn up at all.
9-When you ask someone on a date and they say no (there is bound to be a no or two),do not be angry or bitter about it,just take it in your stride and move on.Do not treat them rudely or nasty,they may have reasons you are unaware of,and all you will do is hurt their feelings.Did you notice that I jumped from 7 to 9,where is 8.Well I decided to leave that one to you,as you must have learned something along the way,in your dating trials and tribulations,that you have stored away as-not to forget.
One to try for Indian Dating,and here for general dating
Saturday, June 13, 2009
What About Your Profile
When you make the decision to start online dating, you need to create your profile.Dating sites will want you to have a profile so that others can checkyou out to see if you are a possible match.Your profile is the first step you need to take when you begin online dating.Most dating sites will allow you to have a hidden profile.This means that you can see it and peruse the site.Others cannot see you unless you allow themaccess to your profile.You can also allow your profile to be seen by others to give you the maximum exposure.When you are creating your profile for onlinedating, be sure to provide a photo.Most people will want to see a picture of you before they decide to consider dating you.Those who do not put a pictureon the dating sites are seen as either embarrassed by their photo or married and pretending to be single.While there may be a very good reason why someonedoes not post a picture on their profile,it will seriously lessen your chance of finding dates on all dating sites.You should have a photo that is up to date and shows your face.If you can post more than one photo of yourself, you should post a full length picture.Thepictures that you put on dating sites should be current.Many people put photos that are years old and when they finally meet the person face to face,well,their prospective partner feels disappointed,and that you lied to them.
In addition to a photo, you should also put information that is original and well written and tells others about yourself.You should not only put downinformation about you, but also what you are looking for in your partner.Honesty pays when you are creating your profile.If you decide to post inaccurate information about yourself or post an old photo, you are only going to end up the worse off for it.They will think that you are deceptive and not want to continue dating you.You are better off to be as honest as possiblewhen you are seriously looking for someone on a dating site.After you have posted your profile, you can then start to meet others who are also on the site.One way to do this is through chat.Online chat oftenprecedes a date.While a photo can tell you what someone looks like, it can not give you an idea about their personality.So once you put up your profile,start looking for that special someone and chat!
In addition to a photo, you should also put information that is original and well written and tells others about yourself.You should not only put downinformation about you, but also what you are looking for in your partner.Honesty pays when you are creating your profile.If you decide to post inaccurate information about yourself or post an old photo, you are only going to end up the worse off for it.They will think that you are deceptive and not want to continue dating you.You are better off to be as honest as possiblewhen you are seriously looking for someone on a dating site.After you have posted your profile, you can then start to meet others who are also on the site.One way to do this is through chat.Online chat oftenprecedes a date.While a photo can tell you what someone looks like, it can not give you an idea about their personality.So once you put up your profile,start looking for that special someone and chat!
Saturday, June 6, 2009
Is Online Dating Right For You
It can be very hard to find someone who you want to date these days.Many people have busy lives because of work commitments,school or family commitments.People often do not take the time necessary to find a partner to bring into their lives.It can be very hard to find someone you are interested in if you only go out on the weekends.These types of scenarios are often less than suitable in finding that all-around person who is going to make you happy. Dating online can help in this regard.I started out in one direction but before I continue,later in the week,I feel it remiss of me not to mention that we all have different tastes.Therefore I think I should mention the fact that there are sites that cater for this variety of needs and tastes .Here is one such site that I think is well worth a try.
Monday, June 1, 2009
Times a Changing
The world has changed a lot in the last ten years and so has the way people connect and look for love. Online dating has become mainstream and people who once thought they would never try it are trying it and loving it. Since people live such busy lives these days it can be difficult for singles to find the time to meet people with similar interests to date let alone find a partner to potentially share their lives with. Online dating provides a viable solution for busy singles so that they can spend less time looking for dates and more time actually on dates.Singles these days are skeptical of meeting people in bars and may not want to deal with the smoky, loud atmosphere that can make it difficult to talk to someone long enough to ascertain whether they would like to date the person. Online dating allows you to see a picture and a profile which can give you glimpse of the person's personality. From there you can decide to pursue contact through email messages that are securely delivered through the website or even instant message. Once you feel a connection with another single on an online dating site, it is a good idea to set up your first date in a public place where you can meet to see if the online attraction translates to real life. From there you can decide whether to pursue a relationship with this person or keep searching for love with online dating. This is a lot simpler than spending weekend after weekend hanging out at bars and waiting for some sign of attraction from another single then finding out that all they were looking for was a one-night stand.Finding a partner in life is a challenging and yet rewarding task. The road to eternal bliss is full of pit stops and pot holes that must be overcome before reaching your final destination. Online dating is by no means a cure all, but it can certainly make the process a whole lot easier, especially for professionals who just don't have time to search for someone to date. Besides, it is much more enjoyable to spend what little free time you have available actually going on dates rather than spending it on looking for someone to go on dates with. Getting started with online dating is as easy as filling out a profile and uploading a picture of yourself. You never know where it might lead.
ARE YOU LOOKING FOR LOVE?
ARE YOU LOOKING FOR LOVE?
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